God Speaks: Who are you not to be blessed?

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”-Marrianne Williamson

Sometimes Christians have just no idea how powerful their prayers are. We pray for favour, wisdom, grace, wealth and all that and yet are amazed when they manifest in our lives. These past two month have been an amazing journey for me, one good thing after the other.
It seems like all my unanswered prayers are beginning to get answered, just not the way i expect them to.
But i know He is working in and on me. I had prayed for Him to bring only the right people my way, and He cleared some people i never thought i could live without. The results? I am actually happy now, for the strangest of reasons, i just seem to have had a burden lifted off me. And i am living much better than before.

Driving to work just yesterday i was talking to God, no, this was not an epiphany, this was not my imagination. God does talk to us. Lets not limit his power to the olden days , with thunder , lightning, burning bushes, sparkling lights and fireworks. He sometimes talks to us in the gentlest ways with no theatrics -at least thats what happens in my case.

And here is what he said, ” Do you know you’ve been called to glory? ” The Bible says Jesus grew in wisdom and stature , and He found favour before God and man”. ” this is the life you should be living , living in favour”. ” Why are you surprised about the favour?”. “Why are you scared?”
“Isn’t this what you always pray for?”.
So i thought to myself, indeed it is. I have even sowed seeds of faith into this.
So i decided to push my luck and ask him more questions. I asked if i would be alright. His answer? A simple yes. That was it. “Yes, you’ll be fine. Just pray.”
Then i asked Him, you know im not perfect right? I struggle with sin.
All he said was “Why do you think Christ died for your sins?. His blood is powerful enough to forgive”.

Unfortunately that was it, i got distracted at a roundabout and couldn’t go back to that moment.
But one thing i know is His work that morning was done. He’d cleared my doubts and given me hope for the future. And thats what He always does.
You may be going through a period of preparation like i am. When the things that were familiar to you have changed, but you feel like everything will eventually work out. You know what? It will! Just pray, like He told me.

And never feel like you dont deserve His grace, embrace the good things that come your way. That which is from above is above all. We were meant to enjoy life, now and hereafter. I dont mean wealth, but life! Life is sometimes in the simplest of things; the kind words from family, appreciation from friends, help from strangers, random acts of kindness, unexpected tokens, laughter, fun-filled moments. This, among many other bigger blessings is the favour i have received lately, and may it be your portion

Why am i sharing this? Im not doing this to seem holier or special than anyone. But to encourage us in the faith, because His word says ” and they overcame him (the devil) by the blood of the Lamb and the words of their testimony” ( pardon me for forgetting the verse).
But sometimes it takes your testimony to make someone stronger in the Lord.

No Promises

Not Soo Comforting
Love like there’s no disappointment
Trust like uv never been hurt
By all means LIVE!!
Every storm passes
Every dark cloud slows moves on
Memories fade
Good times don’t last forever
But neither do bad times
Seasons change
Have joy
Have fun
Feel the pain
And let it pass
Moments melt away
Ripples, Waves, Storms
They all pass
Such are the changing scenes of life
Then one day
Ul know why it never worked out with him
You ll know why you clung so desperately to a girl who never cared
You might never get over the pain
You might never understand the hurt
But the hot tears coursing down your cheeks will stop
Those sleepless nights will be over
The desperation will cease
The heartaches will feel bearable
Pain will be all too familiar
Or better still, the pain will fade
The red eyes, puffy from crying all night will clear
You ll smile again
Maybe forever, maybe not
You’ll laugh again, hopefully ever heartier
You’ll feel desire again, possibly stronger
You’ll give so much of yourself ,, possibly much more
You’ll love again, hopefully forever

Someday …. You’ll finally find … Peace


Yea, yea, i know i’m not that old , not quite a quarter of a century, and im looking back and thinking my life through?

Well, thats how it goes for me. Im thinking i need to do a realtiy check every once in a while to determine if im on the right path or not.

So over the years what have i loved doing? What have i regretted doing? How have i grown? What is the way forward?My childhood was pretty fun.I could do pretty much anything i wanted, except go out and play with other kids. But then i had my own ways around that so i didnt really mind much.

What type of kid was I?

A tom-boy through and through, but a bi of a fear-o as well. Climbing trees, riding bikes , being up to no good, that was my thing. Then came the other side of me, books!!!

Icould read my life away and still be reading in the next century. I atill do that sometimes, but the time!! I read eevery single book in my house, and by that I mean, EVERY, SINGLE, book. starting from the normal boring Babysitters Club books which i didnt like very much thruogh Nancy Drew and Hardy Boys to Sweet Valley Books. It didnt matter if i didnt really like the story, once i picked up a book a just had to know how it ended, thats it! Finally i read the other random books and then the books got finished. the storybooks i mean. so i moved on to the history books, i knew American History off-head, from American Indians to the Boston Tea Party to the Declaration of Independence, everything i could find in the books, i devoured. I even started writing a book on American Indians afterwards, copying paragraphs from different books together. (what else was expected of a tiny thirdgrader who had never heard of the word plagiarism?),then came the science books,( dinosaurs, pollution. inventions and inventors, space) then the x-rated books. ( thank goodness i had enough sense even back then to hide them when i was reading), then my mum’s university history notes, her lesson notes, my big sister’s school essays, her notes, her letters( oops, sorry Stella).

I read pretty much everything and memorised so much more that i became and my mum’s personal walking encyclopaedia. there was this health book in my house i read so many times i practically had the lines memorized, anytime my mum needed health tip from the book she’d just calll me to ask. – Much faster than reading it herself. then i discovered Reader’s Digest Condensed books in 5th grade. it was like a dream come true for me. formerly i had never bothered to reach for those big old books on my school library shelves but when i finally figured out it was five!!! full books in one it was like christmas come early for me. i could borrow a book and have 5 whole stories to myself. soon my pace got faster and faster till i could read a whole condensed book in just a day.

it sounds silly now, but back then i used to hate that about myself. i didnt know why i had to read so fast and have nothing to do afterwards. the librarian would neevr understand that i had finished my book in a day so i cactually had to pretend it wasnt done or she would probablt ban me from taking them since she would think i never even read them.

thats about it for my love of books. i still love a good read. but these days with so much else to do it cant just curl up all day reading. eeven though i sorely miss those days.

could reading ever be a talent? because i think it was mine. still is actually.

but i never could find anthting that useful with it. i used to think other kids were so tallented because they had obvious talents, like in sports or music or something else. maybe i should have started a reading club or something but its not like its not like anyone cared that read so much. and past a certain point i dont really think ant=yone cared what i knew from books.

maybe sometime this year, il go on a vacation alone. just me and a couple of books and the beach. spend my whole day basking in the sun and having my kind of fun.

ps. i read the whole of Harry Porter 5 in a day, on book free day in high school!! Just snugglled upp before the trip and read my life away between the pagees of fantasy. ..hehehe

fun times.

Are You Paying Attention?

Hate isn’t the opposite of love, apathy is

Know the best way of making people feel unloved? Just don’t care. Just do nothing.
Ignoring people sometimes shows the worse form of hate, especially for narcissistic people. Just dont pay any attention to them and they will practically die inside.
So many times we have people walking around who “look” alright on the outside, but are practically dying inside. Why is that every time someone commits suicide or heinous hate crimes those around them would have never guessed it possible. never seem to know how it happened?
Usually when someone commits suicide all you hear is , ” I never saw it coming, she seemed okay”.

yes, She may seem ok, but deep inside might be someone hurting so bad.
It might be,
a lonely young man who despite his brilliant career cannot seem to score it with the ladies, someone having midlife crisis, a teen who is afraid she’s pregnant. That could be why he stays out late all weekend, parties hard and seems to just be living for the fun of life. Talk to people and you just might be amazed by their stories.

There are times you have a random convo for just a couple of minutes and get to know very intimate details of people’s lives. Things you will never guess they are going through. Those tend to be humbling moments because realize things are not always what they seem. The people we think have got it pretty much covered are those hurting the most.

Spoke to someone about the death of his father and the changes it had brought to his life the other day. The death was a couple of years ago, but still seemed to have a spiral effect on his life. It was our third meeting, and our previous exchanges had been mere hello’s. It made me pause and think why he was talking to me, about such intimate stuff.
This isn’t someone who doesn’t have friends,he’s practically the life of every party. Very funny and carefree. So why talk to a complete stranger about stuff like this? I cant tell, but i do that too sometimes, not so intimate stuff though, but it helps.
Complete strangers know nothing about your past and will not judge you or give you the “i told you so” glances friends seem to have every time we end up in a mess after not listening . sure, friends are there to be honst and bring us back to reality every once in a hwile. but if there is that one friend who just loves to see you in a mess , dont waste your rtime on them. cut them out of your life! asap

life is too short to be mistaking haters as friends.

sometimes there is this one friend who just seems to get on a grind. they never have anything good to say and even when they pass a compliment you can sense a mocking tone underneath it all. you dont need to waste your time with such people. you deserve so much more than thses fake friends who just hang around you for goodness knows what. cut them aout of your life aand you’ll be much better for it.

This is to all the “im ok” girls
To those who keep a smile on their faces all day
To those who’ve got a positive word for everyone
Those who try to see the bright side of everything
Even when they keep getting hurt

Those who believe they’ll find love one day
Those who cry themselves to sleep
Who love the wrong guy
Those who wish they could make all their troubles disappear
Those girls who sometimes never want to wake up
Those girls who everyone else thinks is fine
Those who cry themselves to sleep on their birthdays
Those who wish the holidays will never come
Those who sleep an hour earlier on Val’s day

Those who scan the room at parties
Those who go out for events hopeful it will finally be their lucky break
Those who still don’t understand why love is so hard to get

Sometimes your life seems all perfect to those outside
You just can’t reach out to anyone
So you just smile
And pretend you are fine
You wipe away your tears and wash your face
You head out the door with a smile on your face and a bounce in your step
You’ve practised so long it’s like second nature
You keep telling yourself “I’m fine”
I’m fine
Even though it’s hard to believe sometimes

Life will whip you senseless
Love will hand you the worst deals
Life will beat you down
Love will make you cry yourself senseless

Just hang in there

Ul be fine ….. Someday

Tell me Already

This dating game keeps getting longer
Winding and winding
More tales and intricate plots
Even more games and suspense
Why can’t we kill the suspense
Why don’t you just tell me how you feel
I know there’s something
The things you say
The look In your eyes
Just let it out
Say it
Those three words
How long will you hold on to it?
I know ur waiting for me to make the first shot
But I can’t
I really can’t
You started this game
When I was too young to even know which game it was
You wooed me
With your smile
Your touch
Your looks
It was all you at first
So why can’t it go on being you?
Take that step again
The one you took a long time ago
Let me hear those three words you be been dying to tell me
In your subtle moves
Just say it and get it over with
Those three words
I’m strong enough to hear them
Strong enough to hear
“Let’s break up!”

10 Things You Will Regret In 10 Years

One decision can develop into a habit, and the habits you form create your reality. Here are 10 choices that carry significant weight. Learn to be conscious of the decisions you make so you can do your best to live like a champion:”

1. Wearing a mask to impress others.

If the face you always show the world is a mask, someday there will be nothing beneath it. Because when you spend too much time concentrating on everyone else’s perception of you, or who everyone else wants you to be, you eventually forget who you really are. So don’t fear the judgments of others; you know in your heart who you are and what’s true to you. You don’t have to be perfect to impress and inspire people. Let them be impressed and inspired by how you deal with your imperfections.

2. Letting someone else create your dreams for you.

The greatest challenge in life is discovering who you are; the second greatest is being happy with what you find. A big part of this is your decision to stay true to your own goals and dreams. Do you have people who disagree with you? Good. It means you’re standing your ground and walking your own path. Sometimes you’ll do things considered crazy by others, but when you catch yourself excitedly losing track of time, that’s when you’ll know you’re doing the right thing. Read The 4-Hour Workweek.

3. Keeping negative company.

Don’t let someone who has a bad attitude give it to you. Don’t let them get to you. They can’t pull the trigger if you don’t hand them the gun. When you remember that keeping the company of negative people is a choice, instead of an obligation, you free yourself to keep the company of compassion instead of anger, generosity instead of greed, and patience instead of anxiety.

4. Being selfish and egotistical.

A life filled with loving deeds and good character is the best tombstone. Those who you inspired and shared your love with will remember how you made them feel long after your time has expired. So carve your name on hearts, not stone. What you have done for yourself alone dies with you; what you have done for others and the world remains.

5. Avoiding change and growth.

If you want to know your past look into your present conditions. If you want to know your future look into your present actions. You must let go of the old to make way for the new; the old way is gone, never to come back. If you acknowledge this right now and take steps to address it, you will position yourself for lasting success. See the book The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business.

6. Giving up when the going gets tough.

There are no failures, just results. Even if things don’t unfold the way you had expected, don’t be disheartened or give up. Learn what you can and move on. The one who continues to advance one step at a time will win in the end. Because the battle is always won far away and long before the final victory. It’s a process that occurs with small steps, decisions, and actions that gradually build upon each other and eventually lead to that glorious moment of triumph.

7. Trying to micromanage every little thing.

Life should be touched, not strangled. Sometimes you’ve got to relax and let life happen without incessant worry and micromanagement. Learn to let go a little before you squeeze too tight. Take a deep breath. When the dust settles and you can once again see the forest for the trees, take the next step forward. You don’t have to know exactly where you’re going to be headed somewhere great. Everything in life is in
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Doing it right

Its such an uphill climb, finding someone you truly care about, someone who isnt perfect but who you’re williing to stick by anyway.

Sometimes love comes easy enough, especially the mutual admiration phase.
Boy meets girl, he catches her eye. They smile at each other. It blossoms, they laugh, they smile some more, then waltz into the sunset.
Dont you just love happy endings?

But if there’s anything life has taught most of us, it is that true love isn’t easy to find. Love doesn’t always hit two people at the same time. In most cases you won’t always be in sync and its easier to lose love than to get love.
Especially in these times. Tell me if im wrong, but i believe there has never been a worse time to love than now.
We have our young men struggling to make the most they can from a broken educational system and even worse employment system. They sometimes seem to be in competition with the very people nature built them to protect. More like a lion going hunting for its cubs only to find them standing by an already slain carcass, feasting on their prey. Would that lion feel like a provider? Total emasculation.

Then comes the ladies, also trying to make the best they can whiles feeling the pressure of age creeping in on them. Because back there somewhere in their heads, even as independent as they come, a young Ghanaian lady knows getting married does count towards her success as a woman.
But is a smart , talented, independent woman with dreams and values. Someone who knows her worth and what what she wants. She strives for the best at the workplace, in school, wherever she find herself. So she isn’t going to settle for just any kind of guy, but a smart, successful, ambitious guy. Who can challenge her; dream for dream, and spur her on to do even greater things.. . .and oh, being cute would be an absolute plus, add God fearing, honest, classy, corporate man and Score!!
But lets not forget these were the same guys we sat in class with, and most of them have been emasculated by the system.
Its not easy finding that dream package. Most successful guys either left behind their senses of humour in their bid to gain academic laurels or even worse their morals.
Now for every eligible bachelor there might be about 3 potential young ladies all eyeing that price. But the problem here isn’t a lack of good men, or women. There are lots of those to go around. The problem is knowing when you’ve found a gem, and how to keep them.
I have had lots guys always whining about not finding good girls, and an even greater number of ladies also playing the same tune. So why dont we have one big singles party, number them and just pair them up? Bright idea right? Right?
That would never work. Not necessarily because they won’t be right for each other, but because the human heart takes time to warm up to people, to nurture, to trust. And considering that dating starts as early as 18 these days every young persom goes through college having dated at least two people. Now that doesnt seem like a very large number does it? Not to the human brain, it doesnt. But to the heart its one different ballgame. Two or three is a big deal. That rough process we put our heart through when dating makes us soldiers of love, more cynical, and less inclined to love fully. So guys go into relationships expecting the worst, expecting to be treated less better than they should, they give less of their hearts and love with their heads.
Girls go in with the same notion, but from biblical times the woman was made to love, to give herself fully to a man. Anytime she does anything short of this there is an imbalance, and the guy feels it. So here are two people, afraid to love fully, afraid to get hurt, all giving only a part of their broken hearts out.
The guy entertains other girls, keeping his options open just so it wont hurt so bad when things don’t work out. the girl only half believes what he says. Deep down she wants to, but seeing all her freinds break up, her parents marriage dissolve beneath them, she just has a cynical approach to love. So she loves her man, as well as she can- with inhibitions. She believes his words, to an extent.
With this charade even the smallest winds can topple them over. The moment the guy starts talking to other people she gets jealous, because deep down she doesn’t trust in the foundation she has put up.

Those lonely nights, those stressful days. Its easy to want to give up when the going gets tough. Especially the process of love. Love matures. It grows. From that tiny seed called a crush, from that feeling of admiration, it grows into something bigger, something more awesome. But that growing process can be pretty tough, and rough. There are days you have no idea where your love is heading. When it seems you ‘re giving it your all, and only being handed bits and pieces of a broken heart.
Then there are times you get handed it all, when someone trusts you enough to get vulnerable with you, but you know deep down that love isnt yours to be had.
The love journey isn’t easy, especially during these times. But sometimes you’ve just got to trust, let go and believe good things will come to you. And you know what?
They will! 😉

By the simplest definition, a virtual office assistant is an independent contract worker who provides administrative, creative or technical services. Often that means handling the same types of tasks as an office secretary or manager, but doing them from a home office, using the virtual assistant’s own computer equipment, software, phone and Internet connection [source: International Virtual Assistants Association].

Here are some of the general tasks that an office assistant may do in a virtual office:
Manage contact lists and customer spreadsheets
Maintain a calendar and set up meetings
Take transcription and handle correspondence
Make travel arrangements
Handle billing and accounting
Prepare and send out e-mail newsletters
Prepare, collate and ship proposals and meeting materials
Send out requested information to customers
Handle client inquiries by phone or e-mail

[sources: Entrepreneur and ABC News]

For this type of work, you can expect to be paid $20 to $45 per hour. Businesses may commit to paying a monthly retainer for 10 or 20 hours of the virtual assistant’s time, or they may buy hourly blocks of time, leaving the assistant free to work for more than one client at a time. The virtual assistant generally sets the fee, based on the complexity of the work and the turnaround time on specific projects. Rush jobs cost more than those with regular turnaround [source: PR Log].

Depending on the industry, payment may be set up differently. One real estate agent, for instance, pays his virtual office assistant a commission based on the number of closings each month rather than a salary. His assistant, who lives several states away, handles advertising, design and Web site management for him while he focuses on selling and listing houses [source: Realty Times].

By specializing in services they offer or the businesses they support, experienced virtual office assistants can often demand higher fees of up to $100 an hour. You can charge more for these and other areas of specialized expertise:
Translation and preparation of bilingual written or online materials
Medical transcription
Market research
Specialized Internet research
Industry knowledge in technology, financial services, law or health care
Development and maintenance of Web sites

[source: HomeOfficeMag]

Succeeding as a virtual assistant takes skill, contacts and personal organization. You have to be able to set your own work schedule, based on client needs and stick to it. And you need to be able to produce high-quality work on your own.

Here are the core competencies that the Alliance for Virtual Business recommends that you have:
Drive and determination to see clients succeed
Ability to work as part of a team
Excellent customer service skills
Basic understanding of business operation, including budgeting, creating business and marketing plans, contracts and agreements and time management
Willingness to admit and correct mistakes
Respect for others’ intellectual property (no plagiarism or software piracy)
Good organizational skills
Good spelling, grammar and punctuation skills

You’ll also need current technology, including a reliable computer, Internet connection, phone with voice mail or answering machine, fax machine or computer faxing capabilities, business and communications software and antivirus software. You’ll need to be proficient at using this software, along with e-mail, the Internet and instant messaging.

Got this off facebook. Wish every man who comes my way would just take a few minutes to read this first. Deep thoughts, the ending was kind of an anticlimax though.
Dear Man/Males
Please men
Before you go all the way inside of her.
before you finish saying you love her.
… Before you buy her the ring,
Before you stretch your arms out and touch her.
Before you call her on the phone,
before you tell her your looking for a wife.
Before you fill her head up with dreams,
before you become the man in her life.
Before you decide to approach her,
before you decide to kiss her.
Before you go meet her mother,
before you tell her you miss her.
Before you make her emotional,
before you Get her excited.
Before you consume her mind.
Before she admits she likes it…If your not right then leave her, before she thinks you need her.
Before she feels its real, that woman is a keeper!! For a man who wants a blessing, for a man who wants a
queen. Not a man that’s full of game, or a man who wants to scheme. So before you say i do, let your
intentions be to love her. Dont marry her for her assets, marry her because you love her. Don’t marry her
because she’s pregnant, just be a father to that child. Because if you marry her just because she’s pregnant,
the arguments are gonna affect that child.
So before you make a promise, and before her feelings start. Know that she is a real BORN AGAIN woman of
God, and all im asking is please – Don’t break that woman’s heart, God is expecting to be invitee for a wedding
to join you together as you will be taking the vows. She derseve a ring